Friday I went to spend the night with my beautiful best friend Jamie. She is such an amazing person and radiates so much positive energy. She is one of the only people on this planet that I feel like I don't have to explain myself too because she just gets it! I don't know what I would do without her :)
This is a pic of us when we went camping this summer...it was just me and her eating our "bird" food and playin scrabble :)
So then, I decided that since I was in the area I would swing by my moms house to throw my laundry in and just say a quick hello! Well, that soon became a big mistake :( Let me backtrack a little. When I went to CEDC a year ago, I realized a lot of things about me and my mom's relationship. Just to make things simple, I realized it wasn't healthy. My mom has an eating disorder as well and she was in an IOP program in January. I separated myself from my mom almost completely last fall and I know that that was really hard for her; as it was very hard for me. Mostly just because I felt bad that she was so upset but I kept reminding myself that I needed to take that time for me. So lately I've been noticing that I've been becoming a lot more open with my mom and I've been sharing more of my feelings about my current situation. This is kind of scaring me because I'm not sure if I'm falling back into old habits, or if I really worked through a lot of the issues that I resented her for enough and am starting to repair our broken relationship. Anywaysss I was talking with her because she has been concerned and she said one of the worst things to me that anyone could ever sayyy! whenever people say this to me I get really really angry. She said, "hannah it's like any disease or addiction, it will never really go away, it will always be there with you."!!! NOOOOOO! I will not accept that! I absolutely will not. What is it all worth then?? there is no point to recovery if there really isn't any reality in recovery. No one could say they were recovered if that were true. I know through living breathing examples that that is not true. I think the hard part for me in hearing that is that I feel that way about my own recovery most days - that it will never be possible, and Ed will never be silenced. She tried to tell me that her therapist at her outpatient place told her that that was the case, and you want to know my response to that? She shouldn't be a therapist. My mom try to tell me that she was just being realistic! So what is real? Do I choose to listen to my mom who obviously really hasn't embraced recovery 100% or do I look too someone like my therapist as an example who is a living breathing RECOVERED anorexic. I think I'll go with my therapist, because otherwise, what's the point!?
After I left my mom's house (I don't live there by the wayyss if anyone was wondering - and precisely for that reason) I was really upset and so I texted my best friend Carly to tell her. She gave me the best advice; "Just nod, smile, and let it go." I tried to do that, mind you this was after the fact. I want to believe that this is possible, and that is probably why I spend more time with my therapist than I do with my mom (2hrs/week? definitely!). It was still really bothering me after I left. I kept thinking about what she said and I tried to just let it go but all of my doubts, or I guess Ed's nasty comments, kept popping into my head.
When I got back to school, I felt like I NEEDED to go to the gym because I had eaten certain things that I felt ashamed of and guilty for at my moms house. I thought about it for a moment and I was like you know what? This is exactly when I need to make the conscious decision not to go. I'm going because I feel like I need to, not because I WANT to.
That was big, and I knew it was so I was feeling really positive. Instead of going to the gym, I went to a sporting event with my amazing roomie Jenna. Later in the evening, we did a little shopping and ended up at Barnes & Noble. I really wanted a coffee so I was going to get one and then all of a sudden I was like you know what!? I'm going to challenge myself! and I got a Pumpkin Spice Latte!!
Now to most people that doesn't seem like a big deal, but for me it was HUGE! If you know mw, you know that I drink water, diet coke, and BLACK coffeee. That would be because I am absolutely terrified of caloric beverages; I know its weird but that's just one of my fears. Everyone raves about this latte so I figured what the hell!? why not? Well, now you may be wondering what I thought!? Honestly, I don't know if its because I'm just really used to drinking things so plain, or I just really don't like pumpkin, but it wasn't my favorite. I mean it wasn't bad, and I drank the whole thing :) but I don't think I'll be making a trip out of my way to get one anytime soon.
THEN, I wasn't going to have my nightly snack of frozen yogurt (gotta get my dairy) because I had the latte but I was like no hannah, a latte is not your snack, so I asked carly if we could stop to get that :) I even ate alllll of the candies that the girl put on it even though she put quite a few! The rest of my weekend went by wayyy too fast and now this week is going to be very stressful and very long. I have two midterms; stats and original exam :( My goal is to survive this week! I know it can be done :) I hope you ladiess have an enjoyable, and stress free week! No matter what anyone says, recovery is possible! We have to believe!